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Today I had a hard time going out handling a 4yo kid. A young boy at the age of 4yo, emotionally I attached to the mother and happen that I’m the Foster Father of this particular boy.
Children @ 4-year old, I trust that everyone in this world would have agree with me. Children at such young age, their first priority in their mind will be the attention of the parents. & children with such mindset would do anything to grab the attention of their parents, no matter is good items or bad actions, as far as the limit that they can do it they would do it.
But usually when parents or shall I say “We”, will only pay attention to kids when they did wrong things no matter is scolding or just plain comments, the kids take it. Why? For a few reason.
1. They don’t understand fully what did the parents said, but they are aware that the attention of the parents if focus on them for that moment.
2. Children at such age, don’t really understand what is Right, what is Wrong.
3. Parents in order to save the trouble, would simple grab the children into their hugs and looking them into the EYE (that is attention grabbed btw)
And usually friends, relatives or even grandparents will do usually?
· “Sayang saying, don't cry don't cry, good boy good girl don't cry de.”
· “Can u just shut up!!”
The 2 reactions mentioned above, we mean it to be doting or discipline the children but to the kids?
“YES!!! Finally someone is paying attention to me. Definitely someone/the one I want will pay attention to me, hug me or sayang me to make me feel happy.”
To all my friends and parenting adults out there, yes, that is what the children are thinking about. Apparently the children is very innocent/naive, they only think about the normal routine course of action coming up but they do not known what are some of the alternative option will pop out.
Doctors and most of the people, what are some of the advice we will give when we encounter such situation. Well, they simply ignored the children’s whining and shouting. Why? Because we believes that as long we don't react to their actions and reverse the predicted course of action by the kids, the children will stop their whining and be quiet. Maybe most of the situation will become such way, but minority will not be, the kids will carry on with their acts and made the adults around to be either annoyed or angry. But the around-by passer-adults won’t be angry at the children, their inner voice of anger usually arrowing at the parents on the spot, either the Father or the Mother.
Actually I was suppose to do a assignment about my principal of how to educates Children with Special Needs. And I was cracking my head, draining my brain juice and killing my brain cells to make it done, but still no ideas come to my mind. I even have the thought of faking a essay that actually suits the heart of the lecturer and goes against my inner sense. After tonight’s outing with my Foster-Son, the ideas had come into my mind, and please, I not hinting that my Foster-Kid is a child that requires Special Care. No and definitely no, but I had sense a theory in my mind and ideas had came into my empty skull for me to revived and work hard again tonight.
So Sunday, 1st November 2009, I’m going to burn midnight oil to do my work. As a educator, I shall make sure the essay coming out warm and fresh which is going to be submit on Monday (Yes, the next day) will be my true idea and my main philosophy for educating Children of the future, and to all mainstream, regardless of Who they are, What they are and Which they are.
Regards,
Luke Walker, 白龙-魔界神龙
awake如是我闻，一时佛在舍卫国只树给孤独园，与大比丘二千五百人，菩萨摩诃萨三万八千人俱。
尔时，世尊引领大众，直往南行，忽见路边聚骨一堆。尔时，如来向彼枯骨，五体投地，恭
阿难合掌白言：“世尊！如来是三界大师，四生慈父，众人归敬，以何因缘，礼拜枯骨？”
佛告阿难：“汝等虽是吾上首弟子，出家日久，知事未广。此一堆枯骨，或是我前世祖先，多
佛告阿难：“汝今将此一堆枯骨分做二分，若是男骨，色白且重；若是女骨，色黑且轻。”
阿难白言：“世尊，男人在世，衫带鞋帽，装束严好，一望知为男子之身。女人在世，多涂
佛告阿难：“若是男子，在世之时，入于伽蓝，听讲经律，礼拜三宝，念佛名号；所以其骨，色
阿难闻语，痛割于心，垂泪悲泣，白言：“世尊！母之恩德，云何报答？”
佛 告阿难：“汝今谛听，我当为汝，分别解说：母胎怀子，凡经十月，甚为辛苦。在母胎时，第
第一、 怀胎守护恩；第二、 临产受苦恩；第三、 生子忘忧恩；第四、 咽苦吐甘恩；第五、 回干就湿恩；第六、 哺乳养育恩；第七、 洗濯不净恩；第八、 远行忆念恩；第九、 深加体恤恩；第十、 究竟怜愍恩。
第一、怀胎守护恩 颂曰
累劫因缘重，今来托母胎，月逾生五脏，七七六精开。
体重如山岳，动止劫风灾，罗衣都不挂，装镜惹尘埃。
第二、临产受苦恩 颂曰
怀经十个月，难产将欲临，朝朝如重病，日日似昏沉。
难将惶怖述，愁泪满胸襟，含悲告亲族，惟惧死来侵。
第三、生子忘忧恩 颂曰
慈母生儿日，五脏总张开，身心俱闷绝，血流似屠羊。
生已闻儿健，欢喜倍加常，喜定悲还至，痛苦彻心肠。
第四、咽苦吐甘恩 颂曰
父母恩深重，顾怜没失时，吐甘无稍息，咽苦不颦眉。
爱重情难忍，恩深复倍悲，但令孩儿饱，慈母不辞饥。
第五、回干就湿恩 颂曰
母愿身投湿，将儿移就干，两乳充饥渴，罗袖掩风寒。
恩连恒废枕，宠弄才能欢，但令孩儿稳，慈母不求安。
第六、哺乳养育恩 颂曰
慈母像大地，严父配于天，覆载恩同等，父娘恩亦然。
不憎无怒目，不嫌手足挛，诞腹亲生子，终日惜兼怜。
第七、洗涤不净恩 颂曰
本是芙蓉质，精神健且丰，眉分新柳碧，脸色夺莲红。
恩深摧玉貌，洗濯损盘龙，只为怜男女，慈母改颜容。
第八、远行忆念恩 颂曰
死别诚难忍，生离实亦伤，子出关山外，母忆在他乡。
日夜心相随，流泪数千行，如猿泣爱子，寸寸断肝肠。
第九、深加体恤恩 颂曰
父母恩情重，恩深报实难，子苦愿代受，儿劳母不安。
闻道远行去，怜儿夜卧寒，男女暂辛苦，长使母心酸。
第十、究竟怜愍恩 颂曰
父母恩深重，恩怜无歇时，起坐心相逐，近遥意与随。
母年一百岁，长忧八十儿，欲知恩爱断，命尽始分离。”
佛 告阿难：“我观众生，虽绍人品，心行愚蒙，不思爹娘，有大恩德，不生恭敬，忘恩背义，无
男女有病，父母惊忧，忧极生病，视同常事。子若病除，母病方愈。如斯养育，愿早成人。及
欺 凌伯叔，打骂兄弟，毁辱亲情，无有礼义。虽曾从学，不遵范训，父母教令，多不依从，兄
或复闻子，不崇学业，朋逐异端，无赖粗顽，好习无益，斗打窃盗，触犯乡闾，饮酒樗蒲，奸
或有父孤母寡，独守空堂，犹若客人，寄居他舍，寒冻饥渴，曾不知闻。昼夜常啼，自嗟自
或持财食，供养妻儿，忘厥疲劳，无避羞耻；妻妾约束，每事依从，尊长嗔呵，全无畏惧。
或 复是女，适配他人，未嫁之时，咸皆孝顺；婚嫁已讫，不孝遂增。父母微嗔，即生怨恨；夫
父母恩德，无量无边，不孝之愆，卒难陈报。”
尔时，大众闻佛所说父母重恩，举身投地，捶胸自扑，身毛孔中，悉皆流血，闷绝躄地，良
尔 时，如来即以八种深重梵音，告诸大众：“汝等当知，我今为汝分别解说：假使有人，左肩
尔时，大众闻佛所说父母恩德，垂泪悲泣，痛割于心，谛思无计，同发声言，深生惭愧，共
佛告弟子：“欲得报恩，为于父母书写此经，为于父母读诵此经，为于父母忏悔罪愆，，为
佛 告阿难：“不孝之人，身坏命终，堕于阿鼻无间地狱。此大地狱，纵广八万由旬，四面铁城，周
尔时，大众闻佛所说父母恩德，垂泪悲泣，告于如来：“我等今者，云何报得父母深恩？”
佛告弟子：“欲得报恩，为于父母造此经典，是真报得父母恩也。能造一卷，得见一佛；能
尔 时，阿难及诸大众、阿修罗、迦楼罗、紧那罗、摩侯罗伽、人、非人等、天、龙、夜叉、乾
尔时，阿难从于坐中安详而起，白佛言：“世尊，此经当何名之？云何奉持？”
佛告阿难：“此经名为父母恩重难报经，以是名字，汝当奉持！”
尔时，大众、天人、阿修罗等，闻佛所说，皆大欢喜，信受奉行，作礼而退。
| Your Name Comes From Uranus |
 You need, crave, and create change. You love dreaming about the future. You are obsessed with ideas and theories. You are never tied to your beliefs though. Your life philosophy is constantly evolving. People see you as a bit eccentric at times, and that's partially true. You are very into your own inner world. |
cheerful
anxious
泉 | 眼 | 无 | 声 | 惜 | 细 | 流 |
树 | 阴 | 照 | 水 | 爱 | 晴 | 柔 |
小 | 荷 | 才 | 露 | 尖 | 尖 | 角 |
早 | 有 | 蜻 | 蜓 | 立 | 上 | 头 |
crappy
depressed(you can generate much more than i can write)
But if we think in another way, life is actually very simple.
Since the time we are borned in this World, we are taking our steps towards the end of it.
So what happened in-between is actually just illusion, memories.
If we hated certain person so much, if we love certain person so deep.
If we had disagreement and lead to the distortion of friendship and relationship.
If what we did had actually triggers other people to dislike us in some ways.
At the end of everything, it is NOTHING.
“放下”方可得自在
just uttering my nonsense.
lolxxx
calm
| You Are a Bay |
 You are easy-going and tranquil. You take solace in life's sweet moments. You are sentimental and open-hearted. You love many people, places, and things. You try to live an enlightened life. You are benevolent, noble, and intuitive. |
busy
这个星期真的是把我所有的精力，所有一整年的精力完完全全给吃光了。
小孩子也好、家长也罢、就连一同工作的同事都可以有冲突。
在这个人吃人的世界里，到底会有几个愿意帮助人的活菩萨呢？？？
做人难、做好人更难、做好的普通人更是难上加难
Not easy to live life as we hope, just pray that life is not so hard after all.
cold